Engaged!

So here’s our latest family news: Last weekend our oldest son Jonathan got engaged!  His fiancée Danielle Baily (or “Dani”) and he have been dating for about three years, since Jonathan’s junior year of college.  They will be married next summer. I’m very happy for him and Dani—Kim and I both are. At the same time, I am still trying to process the fact that my own son is taking such a huge step in his life and will soon be setting up his own household independent from ours.   

For Jonathan and Dani, all kinds of changes will be taking place in their lives and relationship during this year, and over the next few years.  But, there will also be all kinds of changes for us as parents.  Even now, we have had to begin to accept the fact that our roles are changing. Whereas once we gave instruction and expected to be obeyed, now we give counsel and advice, hoping that our experience and “wisdom” will be taken into consideration. Whereas Jonathan’s primary relationship has been found within our household, we must begin to accept the fact that soon his primary relationship will be within his own household—i.e. in relationship with his wife.  And, the list can go on.  None of it is easy, but it is necessary as he, Dani, and we move on through life. 

Kim and I both know that this is really only the beginning for our family.  With Nathaniel and Joanna away at college, and Jonathan at grad school, we are already living most of the year, as “empty-nesters.”  When at 10:00 pm, the TV station asks, “Do you know where your children are?” we have to answer “No!”  That thought in and of itself can cause in us a bit of worry. 

So, what can we do as we watch our children become more and more independent from us and even begin to move towards marriage?  I believe, the answer is found in Jesus’ words,  Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God.  Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. (Luke 12:6-7 – NIV) Somehow, I have to release my children and their futures into God’s hands, believing that God loves my children more than I do, and that he will watch over their lives. 

In fact, such is the case for each of us.  God sees us, loves us, and has promised to care for us! So as we move through all the changes that life brings our way, let’s  remember that God is there to watch over us and help us each step of the way. 

Have a great day!

Pastor Tim Harris

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